Cohabitation
vs. Traditional Marriage
This
is a report on the advantages and disadvantages between cohabitation and a
traditional marriage. Let's look at what are the two as a whole. The definition
of cohabitation is when two people either male or a female live together inside
of one house. On the other hand, both men and women can live together for one
common purpose. It is based on necessity and its sole purpose is to survive by
putting all of your resources together and maintain a specific place to live.
If it applies to non-married couples, the only thing that is accomplished is
the bills are getting paid. For example, the utilities, food, and rent are
being paid by someone who has income coming from a specific source. On the
other, anyone at any age usually cohabitate as a means of testing the waters.
This is to determine whether the person that they are currently living with is
suitable for marriage.
This
is done on a trial and error basis. Anyone who agree with cohabitation as a
means to figure out whether this person is a candidate for marriage, then good
luck!!!! As far as a traditional marriage is concerned, it is when a man and
woman who has done things the right way, and they are ready to settle down and
join a life partnership. A certificate from the state of which the union has
been official is required. It does require a great deal of planning and
responsibility when it comes to both men and women. Some people pay for their
own wedding all by themselves. There are others who would prefer to have others
to assist in this process. A wedding planner or ministers of a church are
examples of people who will assist in this process.
We are
not saying that family members could not help. It varies according to how
family members accept the bride or groom as a member of the family. Now each
member of a cohabitated family household as well as a traditional marriage must
have some financial stability. This means that each member of the household
must carry their own weight on a financial basis. You cannot have one person
carrying the full load all by themselves. If this is the case, then you will
have conflict inside of the residence. This is not a laughing matter. This is
because women are stronger than men when it comes to maintaining a specific
household.
This
is because they are organized and straight to the point when it comes to paying
bills as well as buying food. Women are better planners when it comes to
dealing with childcare, but they cannot do it all by themselves. This is the
reason why men should be able to keep up when it comes to learning how to
listen to women. If not, then a man who does not know how to manage the affairs
of a household and children will always have trouble. This is because some men
tend to allow women to pay for all of the bills and they also are controlling
inside of a cohabitated or a traditional marriage environment.
For
more information about this, try looking into your law enforcement statistics
as well as issues pertaining to domestic violence. This is not to say that
there is not any equilibrium or equality inside of the household. Therefore,
good communication skills are necessary when it comes to maintaining a
household of any kind. It is always very important to understand that there are
more women and men who have decided to try the cohabitation method. Why is
this, this is because it is much easier on them than getting married.
This
is simply because an average person will have to find out how you are
personally before they will decide to get married. This is the feeling out
process. It is a feeling out process because it enables men and women to find
out all about each other. Like they say, you have to find out what is sand from
soil. If a person does not know the difference between sand and soil then this
is a problem. Traditional marriages are not lasting very long for young people
between the ages of 18 to 40. The reason why is because there is a breakdown in
communication and there are times that both men and women hold on to emotional
baggage from the past. If there is baggage from the past, then it is very
difficult for couples to have a successful relationship.
Men
and women are different when it comes to communication in the first place. If a
man is afraid to share with his spouse or significant other about his personal
feelings, then there is a problem. This means that his ego is inside of his
body and he is hiding his true self. A man's ego is like a cage that he tends
to hide inside of whenever there is a conflict inside of the home. Men on the
other hand are supposed to become leaders inside of an average cohabitation or
traditional marriage household. If he is not a leader, then why is a woman so
reluctant allowing him to spread his wings and fly? I guess women tend to fear
that they cannot find another man to replace the one that was lost. This is an
insecurity on their part because like they say, people can do things all by
themselves.
People
will have to become secure within yourself. By becoming secure, this means to
gain confidence and become more responsible for your own actions as an adult.
Cohabitation has its disadvantages, by saying this; it means that men and women
might not get married in the first place. There is not a purpose. You are just
living inside of a home and paying the bills. What do you have to share with
each other? I guess nothing much!!! What are you intentions in your cohabitated
home environment? Evaluate yourself as a person and ask your spouse or
significant other to do the same.
Disadvantages
in a traditional marriage are unemployment, a lack of childcare resources,
extreme poverty, and breakdown in communication between husbands and wives, as
well as active addiction issues. In a traditional marriage, men and women
refuse to be honest with each other about their personal needs. This also
applies to a cohabitation environment. There is so much dishonesty and a lack
of harmony that it causes men and women to separate and go their own separate
ways.
Departure is extremely difficult in cohabitation and a traditional home environment.
If men and women are not honest and truthful from the very start, then problems
will arise and there will never be a purpose or a set foundation for success in
any of these relationships. Cohabitation and a traditional marriage is really
what you make of it. If your life at the present is not up to your
expectations, then try attending church and request for God's help. It is God
who provides us with the air that we breathe each day. It is God who gives us
our life and bless us with the people who we choose to share our life with. God
Bless You!!!
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